Friday, July 23, 2021

What to do When Your Button is Pushed...❤️

This isn't recent, but again, is still very worth-watching and is only 5-minute^o^
Button Pushing - Conscious Discipline Skills
Dr. Becky Bailey is an author, educator, child development expert and founder of Conscious Discipline, who many Kindermusik educators love to learn from her wonderful guidance.

Monday, July 19, 2021

 

See your child smile from ear to ear as you bond in a musical world together, singing, dancing, listening, playing with (house-found) instruments, and making friends!
Next class starts Sunday 7/25 from 10-10:45am PDT

Click here to find out more!

Monday, July 12, 2021

 


"Don't just play notes on a page. Play the song in your heart.

Our hands-on playing projects are taught systematically, step by step, and then released to your own imagination."


Interested?

Then "reply" and RSVP to one of the two upcoming online Free Info Sessions with me, to find out more about this Inner Musician piano program for students four years old and older!


Sunday, July 25
4- 4:30pm

or

Thursday, July 29
4:30- 5pm


Let me know also if you have any questions ^o^

Musically,

Emily 

What is "Play a Story" from "InnerMusician"?
Play a Story Introduction

Friday, July 9, 2021

from a child development course that I took previously:


DISCIPLINE VS. PUNISHMENT

Discipline is different from punishment because it teaches children to learn from their mistakes rather than making them suffer for them. In fact, imposing suffering actually shifts the focus from the lesson that needs to be learned to who is in control. As a result, punishment focuses on the parent being responsible for controlling a child's behavior, rather than the child controlling his/her own behavior, which is the focus of discipline. 

In Positive Discipline, Jane Nelsen offers guidelines for using consequences, which she calls the Four R's of consequences. These four R's actually apply to all discipline techniques, not just natural and logical consequences. Whatever discipline technique you choose, make sure it meets the following four criteria:
* Whenever possible, REVEAL the consequences of misbehavior ahead of time so children will know what to expect the next time they choose to misbehave.  "If you want to ride your bike, you need to stay on the sidewalk or I'll know you've decided to put it in the garage."   Notice how the responsibility for the behavior and its effect are on the child rather than the parent. Can you tell how different this sounds than if the parent said, "Don't go in the street or I'll take your bike away." First of all, this wording gives the child the idea to go in the street (See "Don't say Don't!" July 1993 T.I.P.S.) then challenges the child to test the rule by wording it like a power threat.  

* The discipline should be logically RELATED to the misbehavior.  Sending a child to bed or restricting a child from TV has nothing to do with riding a bike in the street.

* Present your comments in a RESPECTFUL manner that lets children know they have a choice about how they behave.   "When I see you riding your bike in the street, I know you're not ready to ride it safely and need to put the bike away."   Notice how different this sounds than, "That's it, get out of the street! I'm taking your bike away for the rest of the day! You could get killed out there!" When we speak to children in disrespectful ways, they respect us less and tend to talk back at us disrespectfully more often. We earn others' respect by showing respect to them first.
* Provide a REASONABLE solution that will allow children an opportunity to correct the behavior while the lesson is fresh in their minds.  "You can try to ride your bike again on the sidewalk after lunch."   Notice that the time limit was a matter of hours, rather than days. Always make the time limit as minimal as possible, but long enough to emphasize the lesson. Also, notice that the correct behavior was presented as a choice. The parent is respectfully revealing the discipline again before giving the child another chance.  Each time the child violates the rule, increase the time limit gradually. If you restrict children from a bike for a week the first time, they'll spend more time dwelling on their resentment than thinking about the lesson. If they make the same mistake again, they're likely to lose the bike for a month! 
Children need practice at being good -- and we need to be honest with ourselves and decide whether our goal is to teach positive behavior, to show who is in power, or to get revenge.   If any one of the Four R's is missing from the discipline, it turns the technique into punishment, which has Four (new) Four R's: Resentment, Rebellion, Revenge, and Retreat (lying, learning to not get caught, running away). If your child reacts in any of these ways, review how you presented your discipline. Chances are, one of the Four R's of Discipline was missing. But don't worry, children always give us another chance to learn from our mistakes!

Monday, July 5, 2021

"How Can I Stop a Certain Behavior From a Child?"❤️

 

"All behaviors are some form of communication"- Dr. Bailey

(This video is only a minute long.)
Dr. Becky Bailey Answers, "How Can I Stop A Certain Behavior From A Child?"
Dr. Becky Bailey is an author, educator, child development expert and founder of Conscious Discipline, who many Kindermusik educators love to learn from her wonderful guidance.

Friday, July 2, 2021

We've been singing "Row, Row, Row Your Boat" during our Kindermusik class these few weeks, and the song can be found in the Kindermusik app that everyone can download and use for free also!^o^


Watch this video below to make some paper boats together with your little one, and maybe add that to some bath time fun too?!😊
How to Make Paper Boats | Kindermusik